I debated writing this blog post for a while. It's extremely personal, and not something you tend to share with strangers. But I've never let that stop me before, so here goes:
You may or may not know that up until recently, I was a virgin. According to my own definition, losing my virginity meant sexual intercourse (or to dumb it down for you: penis in vagina). Now, to preface this, I am fully aware of the fact that "virginity" is nothing but a social construct and that each person defines their own definition of what that word means. As a heterosexual female, who, up until the last three years had little to no experience with the opposite sex, this definition hasn't changed much. That being said, I am not ignorant to the fact that someone of a different sex, gender or sexual identity, will have a different way to define "virginity."
I wouldn't say I am an expert on the matter, nor anywhere close, but I have gathered a good amount of knowledge on the subject of sex. Like most stories, it starts with an awkward sex-ed class in elementary school meant to educate us of the male and female anatomy. And then there's the even more awkward high school classes where your teacher tries to scare you with pictures of STIs, or a former nun informs you that even abstinence isn't 100% effective (you can never forget Mary). But it wasn't until college that I felt comfortable enough with myself to really learn more about sex. Between conversations with my friends, watching youtubers like Laci Green, and reading articles, I seem to have gathered quite a bit of information.
That being said, after hearing horror stories from different people, my expectations were extremely low. I was imagining awkwardness or excruciating pain. But the truth is, my first time was wonderful. I felt safe, relaxed, and I was having fun. It made me thankful that I waited for a time where I felt comfortable. And it's almost liberating to no longer be tied to the stigma that goes along with being a virgin.
But in all seriousness, ...I said a bang bang bangity bang.
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